A DIFFERENT PERCPECTIVE

A conversation I was having with someone the other day about a certain topic sounded really hard to her, until what I ended it with, soften it for her. Which then took us into another conversation, which was great. You see we all have different ways of looking at and perceiving things, different beliefs and if it doesn't land within our values or ideals of being then we can all be quick to judge, make assumptions or think another is wrong. Yet when, what we speak to is within their values, this makes them feel better, about us, about the conversation etc. And vice versa. Yet when we can have conversations with others, and they don't fit our values or our beliefs we get to choose to be in it or not, or, what I find interesting, is trying to see if from their side, to come to an understanding of why they may think the way they do, believe what they believe, Do what they do, I don't have to agree, but it fascinates me. Having different values or beliefs doesn't make anyone wrong, it's just not your way. And one should never be judged for having those values or beliefs, if it hurts no one. You don't have to live with it, you get to live within what you believe. But we can learn so much about others and ourselves if we come into conversations with an opened mind and questioning what we hear. I mean just look at if a Mum chooses to leave her child, this is hard for many other mums to understand, so judgement is thrown her way. But maybe she believes she is doing the best by her child in doing it this way. Or if one is not in a relationship for some time, there must be something wrong, too picky, not good at relationships. Or maybe she just chooses to no longer settle, and being alone is better than just being with anyone. Or if someone chooses to express themselves in ways that many are afraid to, then she must be a little wild, not normal, working through stuff, or maybe she just not longer gives a shit what others think about her anymore, because how she sees & feels about herself is more important. You see we all have a choice in life. Some choices we have to make are hard, but we have to make them in the end and they will not always fall into what other people value and believe, and that's ok. You have to choose for you, always, because this is you're life, and you're the only one who has to live it. If people judge you for your ways, let them, it has nothing to do with you. Stand tall in who you know yourself to be and who you wish to be and don't stop. I'm working with some incredible women who are walking towards their truth, who are really learning to stand tall in who they are and learning the hands off approach. If you're looking to do the same for yourself, Message me about working together 1:1