ARE YOU BEING THE PERSON YOU NEED THEM TO BE?

ARE YOU BEING THE PERSON YOU NEED THEM TO BE? Not really a question you think to ask yourself right, but it's a goodie. Are you being the person you need them to be? We all have our own ways of being, of doing, of showing up. Are you happy with how that all looks & feels to you, for yourself? We often look to others at how they're showing up and if it's not in the way that makes us feel good, then we want them to change to make us feel settled within. However they show up, seems to effect you and how you show up. We often look to others to do the parts that we're not willing to do, or go in or for ourselves. This is where the issues sit. This can be in all styles of relationships. Maybe you want your kids to be, handle things, do things in the way that works better for you and the moment it challenges your way, it throws you and you think they're doing wrong & never listen. Maybe you want your partner to be more driven, because that will make you look & feel more successful, yet you're not willing to get up and do the work yourself, or if you are it's got to be at your speed. Maybe you need your partner to give you affection, pleausre, tell you often they love you, because all of that makes you feel loved & valued and any time they don't, you feel unloved, unwanted...yet you're not willing to give any of this to yourself. Maybe you need your friends to be less negative in conversations, yet if you were to look at your conversations, you yourself are speaking negatively. Look at all the ways you need others to be, to make you feel settled, comfortable, happy inside...then go and be that yourself. We think we are unable to fulfil our own needs...this is false in so many ways. We ourselves have to focus on how we are showing up, for ourselves & others How we can meet our own needs & desires, How we can live our own lives as an individual, How we can comfort ourselves, process our own emotions, How we can speak to what it is we need, How we can use our own decrement when something is off or a change is required. Then, like I've always said. Everything else is a complete bonus in life. It's an addition to you, not what completes you. You get to complete yourself. When you do, you can enjoy the world around you even more so. So are you being the person you need them to be?