Are You Settling?

ARE YOU SETTLING?

Settling in your life, In your work, In your relationships, In yourself!

Generation after generation we have seen so many people settling for what they thought would be enough to see them through the rest of their lives.

Settling maybe because of how old they are and they feel like life is ticking by...so they need to make a move on something now.

Settling maybe because it's easier to take that job instead of putting in the time and energy to really work towards what they truly want.

Settling maybe because someone finally showed interest in them and they thought if they don't take this relationship, they'll be on their own forever.

Settling maybe because it's what society says to be the right thing to do...yet the rule of thumb in society keeps on shifting and changing.

Settling maybe because their parents have a strong influence on them and they feel like they need to keep them happy and not rock the boat.

I've seen it so many times, and I myself have been totally guilty of this in my life. But for the first time, I am finally in a space in my self of being ok with where I am right now.

One of the main questions I get from people is, Have I meet anyone, Am I looking for someone, Do I have a new partner, As though it is expected of me, that my life is not complete until that space is filled. Some people have felt sorry for me for being on my own, At one stage, I felt sorry for me for being on my own too as I was finding it so hard, and it would have been easy to just settle. But the thing is, it's my choice to be on my own at this time. If I wanted to be in a relationship, I possibly could be, I have had offers, I have even had a phone call, but they haven't been right for me. They haven't felt right for me.

I now know what I want. And I'm happy to wait. I want love, I want passion, I want fun, I want seriousness, I want joy, I want growth, I want healthy challenges, I want to feel that energy connection that is only felt by me and that right person...the same goes for my work, and in other areas of my life. And I now know it's not wrong or unrealistic for me to want these things. Those who think it's unrealistic, are usually the ones who may have settled for just good enough in some area of their life or just don't believe that it's possible. I'm choosing not to settle and to only believe that it is possible.

Now don't get me wrong Life gets hard, overwhelming, lonely at times, There are times as a single parent, as a working mum, trying to handle it all on my own - its tough, really tough. Where I fall down and sometimes struggle to get back up. When I just sit there and tears fall because I have no clue what else to do in that moment. When I wish I had someone there holding me up, But it's also in those moments when I realise it's on me, It's up to me to support myself, I’m learning everyday to have my own back. Because those who support us will leave at some point or we will leave them... it’s inevitable, as when our time is up, we will all leave someone behind, so its important to learn to support ourselves as best we can and to be sure to not settle for anything less than what we deserve or desire in our life.

Through saying not to settle, I'm not saying to just give up and walk away from things and people...Not at all, I fully believe if something is worth having, it's also worth putting in the effort, the love, the time, the work, because you still want it and because anything worth having takes work...no matter what area of your life you are thinking of. It's up to you to make those choices for yourself. Find time, make time to get clear on what you truly want in all areas of your life and then be responsible for doing the work for what you want.

Settling for anything less than what you truly want will bring you more pain, discomfort at some point, so getting clear and being patient for the right things to arrive will in the end bring you a more fulfilled life.

You deserve nothing else but what you truly want.

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