ARE YOU TAKING THE TIME TO LEARN THEM?

Do you take the time to learn those close to you. Not in a way that YOU want to know them as, to fit your ideal, but learn them in the way that they work, in who they truly are, what makes them tick. Do you know what excites them, scares them, Do you know the difference between them needing space or needing your time, Can you tell when they're nervous, unsure, uncertain, Can you tell when they're in their flow, in their zone. Often we try to get to know & mould people for our own benefit, our own liking, that sits better for us, but not always see what works for them, what will benefit them more. Getting to know people takes time, and one has to be open to be known, not all people are willing to be fully seen. When we choose not to learn another or another isn't willing to be open to get to be known, then we can only go so far. Experiences are missed, connection is missed, growth is missed...and in some cases (not all), you may need to let yourself move to those who do wish to be seen, learned. I look at my kids in this instance. They all require me to look at them differently. They all have different needs to be met, different ways to express. As they approach some areas of life differently to one another, then how I approach life with each of them requires a different angle at times. It's not a one size fits all kinda deal, although that would be so much easier, it just doesn't work. It requires me to be who I am, with and around them, but to also see them, learn them, as they are. Also a friend of mine said he chooses not to read any of my blog posts because he prefers to get to know me in real time and he gains little golden nuggets that have him reflect or sparks something for him through our conversations...he chooses to take the time to learn about me. If you're looking for more connection...open yourself up to learning about another. Use your 5 senses to help you with this. I've been told many times that I'm observant (too much at times) but it's this very thing about me that helps me connect with others, helps me understand others. Those I care about, those I love, I love to learn them, I love to get to know them so I can support them in living more freely within themselves. Plus...the more we learn about another, the more we learn about ourselves.