LEAN INTO WHAT YOU MOST FEAR.

The very thing we fear, is the very thing we try to control.

Doing all we can to not get to close to it,

To not let it touch us, because if it touches us, it would ask more of us.

Yet the more we try to control it, the more likely it is to happen.

Why?

Because it's wanting to shape you,

It's wanting to show you things your heart actually wants,

It's wanting to bring another part of you forward,

The part of you that you haven't yet acknowledged is available to you.

If we fear intimacy,

The moment someone comes close, we pull away.

If we fear abandonment,

The moment someone pulls away, we do all we can to hold on.

If we fear confrontation,

And someone raises their voice, we curl up & back down.

If we fear judgement,

We hold back from doing what we really desire to do.

If we fear being alone,

Then we'll stay in relationships where love doesn't exist.

We convince ourselves that it's not safe in the places that we fear. And if what we fear happens, we tell ourselves

'See, I knew it' and we make that fear right.

Yet it's in that fear space that we heal, that we grow, that we connect more with ourselves and others.

It's not the absence of our fear, but the presence of it, that heals us.

It's being given the opportunity of experiencing the fear that allows us to lean into, to not back away or push it away, but to hold ourselves in it.

To let ourselves feel every part of it.

To let the fear rise to the surface of our body,

So you knows it's pain,

So you remember it's pain,

And let it come through and out of you.

When you know that pain,

When you remember that pain,

And when you release that pain - that's what changes you.

And once you experience that, you're changed.

We can not heal the fear of intimacy, without the opportunity of being intimate.

We cannot heal the fear of confrontation without the opportunity of being in conflict.

Don't hide your fear.

Speak it, let it be known, let it be heard.

Give space for it and it will whisper all it requires of you.

And it WILL require something different of you.

Your fear is your greatest teacher,

Lean in!