LEARN TO UNDERSTAND 'YOU' FIRST

Learn to understand yourself and do your best to understand others, but drop trying to have others understand you. You see it's so important to really understand ourselves first, because when we do, when we get a sense of how we respond, react, what drives us, what sets us off, triggers us, how we cope with things and all that, it then allows us to be able to look at others and see how they too deal with life. Which then can give us an understanding of why they do what they do, be who they are and we can come with compassion towards that. However, pushing, trying, forcing, gosh even wishing for others to understand us, is wasted energy. They either will understand you or they won't. And sometimes no matter how hard you try, you may never get the response or reaction you wish for. You just have to stay strong in knowing yourself and what you require for you. That's all. A few weeks back I didn't receive in return what I thought I would from someone. We were dealing with the same thing, but in different ways. We responded to the situation differently and that's ok. Now the old me, would have taken it as rejection, like the other person didn't care about me (yes I would have made it all about me haha, because I had no idea who I was) But...what I loved about this situation, this moment, was even though I didn't receive what I thought I would, I was able to quickly understand where they were at, what they were possibly feeling, thinking, processing and I was able to walk away being ok in myself...because I understand who I am and how I work now, which allowed me to try and understand them. I didn't need this person to understand me or even give me what I wanted, because in the end I could give it to myself and give them the space to deal with things their way. We are all so different, and we all deal with and process things differently, so it's important to know yourself so you can express what you require in different moments, and then be able to give and respect what others require also. This takes times, it takes patience and practice. And if people don't understand this, don't understand you and how you work stop trying to convince them. Instead put that energy into you becoming someone who understands self and others as best you can