PAIN IS A GREAT PURIFIER....BUT...

The experience of pain, of loss, or great realisation of your own BS is absolutely one of the greatest purifiers (if you let it be) It brings you to a halt, sometimes to your knees where you're given two options - to carry on as is or to change.

To change, means to feel the pain and the more you feel it, the more you'll remember it and swear to never be here again.

To carry on, means you'll only prolonging your suffering.

When you let pain wake you up, it strengthens you in ways you'd never imagine, it deepens your appreciation, your love, your ability to hold, your understanding. It gives you new eyes, new ears, a clear vision and a quiet determination that fuels you now.

Yet as you let that pain change you, over time, you also let it soften you, because letting that pain harden you only builds a fire proof wall where nothing can reach you.

That's not true living.

So you soften and find a way to keep that determination from burning out.

That's what pain can do for you...BUT...

Do you need pain to change?

NOPE...NOT AT ALL!

Pain that changes us will only come when we don't follow our heart, those whisper, those things that don't land well on us or when we don't step in the direction we know we want to. It's all untreated frustration, disappointments, anger that compounds into pain.

We can simply decide to be a person who sees, hears, feels a change is needed and go for it. It can be that simple. And yes, I also understand that it's not always that simple - but it can be if we decide it to be. You've already experienced those days when you let it be that simple - now it's about choosing it everyday.

It's about trusting yourself more, no matter what.

It's knowing you deserve what you desire and holding true to that.

It's about honouring your days and filling them with what lands well.

It's knowing you can move, can make the change without the pain.

You will still experience many things that aren't easy - it just doesn't need to be painful, it get's to be as simple as choosing change when change presents itself.