YOU DIDN'T EMPTY THE RUBBISH BIN...

Those moments when you find yourself saying again to someone "You didn't do xyz for me" "You didn't do what I asked you to do" "You don't listen to me" With the frustration you feel inside, you find it hard to really understand why they do this...to you. Well, it's not really about them not emptying the rubbish bin again, not really. It's more you haven't emptied YOUR rubbish bin. Your internal rubbish bin that holds all your unhealed pain, resentment, blame, shame in. And normally it's not from the one who is standing in front of us, Who we are pointing the finger at. Yet we project our hurt onto them, Because in those moments, we really do think it is about what the person in front of us is doing or not doing. We react to the parts of us that aren't healed yet, We react to the pain, the frustration we still feel inside. And we will continue to react to those things until we decide to look at that part of us. Someone or something from our past that we haven't yet healed, dealt with yet, keeps surfacing, Sometimes, a lot of the time, we don't think there is anything to heal. Not until we go beyond the surface level issue we are frustrated with. The actions of your first love, The words from one of or both your parents, The emotional disconnect from someone close to you, The disappointment from your teachers, your boss, your coach, your family The exit of someone who you never thought you'd loose, It all hits home hard at the time, yet we pick ourselves up as best we can, Pushing it to the side as we've been lead to believe is the best way forward, And sometimes it is the easiest way forward at the time, That is until, it all begins to come through in how we interact in our relationships we have with those close to us, In the actions or in-actions we take on the daily, Or the vices we reach to that soothes us for a moment. We, without knowing, look to other people and things to make it right for our unhealed pain, Asking others to correct the doings of another, The doings that can only be healed by ourselves, when we decide to take that responsibility on. When we don't empty our own rubbish, It will always overflow onto those who's rubbish it is not. 1:1 Coaching spaces are open, message me for details.