THE FORGOTTEN LUXURY

Feb 7
4 min read

New things were placed in front of us, and they continue to be,

We wanted to be a part of it, it was different, everyone seemed to be getting on it.

What they created was a success,

They successfully created another drug, that seemed harmless,

Especially for so many who usually, naturally, have a good hold of themselves, in being able to turn away from the distraction, only to find they too kept getting pulled back in...oh man did they do good - the creators.

Now we have generations after generations living in it, through it, for it.

That social media drug.

There are so many good things about it.

We do learn many things from it.

We've met people we would have never met,

Gone to places, tried new things all because we saw it on social media.

It's grown many businesses in ways the tradional way couldn't have,

There's so much goodness on there - absoultely.

But what's not on there is...your life.

We know that, you know that, yet so many hours are clocked up on that small little gadget.

There's an underlying fear for many...if you leave it, you might not know what's going on anymore, you may not get invited to places, will people still reach out to you, it's where everything is - events, friends, family.

I'm so often in a battle with it...it's always been great for business for me.

Prior to 2023 I shared A LOT of my life on there - even though it didn't fully sit well with me. Jan 2023 I finally put a stop to that, mostly. I saw things in me that I hadn't seen before & it stopped real conversations from happening. And now I dream off living off it completely...but again I'm battling the business side of it - yet I have some ideas that I'm sitting with.

So naturally I'm in the space of connection, more connection.

So many people are craving more connection, but like many wonder where to start.

Peolpe are making in-person things happen, which is great,

But what about the people in your life now. It's great to meet new people of course, but we can often look for new things and forget who's already standing there with us.

I've always been a social person, catching up with friends, doing things, and I've gone though seasons of what that looks like. At the beginning of being on your own, I'd catch up with friends without the kids...I guess it was me taking a breather. And when I had the kids - that was their time, I didn't want to waste the time I had with them. And without thinking I set it up like that - but what I've noticed is - I've hardly socialised with my kids - and yeap that saddens me. Two of my highest values (family & friends) separated. So I'm making changes.

And like many...my lifelong friends of up to 40 years and I are trying to get ourselves out of the groupchat for a real life meet up - because when we do, we have the best time. Often we stay in one spot, chatting & laughing from beginning to end - It's never long enough and I always wish they lived down the road...social media chats just don't cut it.

I've never been a big txter - I'm not a fan. For some it could look like I don't put in effort, yet get me in person and I struggle to leave haha, conversations are never finished...until next time and that's where the magic is...making time for the next time.

Good connections are built over time. I grew up where family friends just stopped in for a visit - no call, just rock up, it's something we've lost, and it's what I've said to some close friends - just pop in haha but it's like I have to keep training them that it's ok - you'll find me how you find me - and it's ok (with me) messy house or not - I don't care.

And it's not only the connection with others...but also with ourselves.

How we walk through our days, what we do with our time, the hours of every day.

Think about it...if you put down your phone for a whole week, a whole month - what would you do with your time? I've done this off and on...and that lightness you feel, what you create, the places you go, the more time you spend out there - sun, nature, is the forgotten luxury.

What is so natural to our human make up, our natural world - is now classed as a luxury.

It shouldn't be, but you see it and feel it when you let yourself live - even with the mundane things of life. When you let yourself use what's in you, be present to what's in front of you it changes you. It removes so much of what people struggle with in life now, it reduces sickness, anxiety you name it...so why not do more of what we know is good for us.

When you just go and live - put the phone away,

You'll bump into who you're meant to bump into,

You'll have conversations with a stranger,

You'll feel what you're meant to feel,

You'll drive another way and come across something that will catch your eye,

You'll see people doing things you'd love to try or it will just naturally drop in,

Your body will tell you when it's time to go or stay a little longer,

The day will take you where it's meant to take you.

Trust that life will bring you and show you, all that's for you.

Can you do it?...I believe you can.

Let's bring back what's good for you.

One thing to sit with...