You get to choose...always.

Concentrating on growth, your own growth, can feel so challenging, especially with social media, seeing everyone else growing, concentrating on their goals, smashing their goals and life and you feeling like you're not.

So what can you do about it all....well you could get off social media for a start and focus and work on you and your goals if ya want to.

Stop letting all the other BS around you come into your mind.

Stop comparing yourself, your life with everyone else....take what you see with a grain of salt.

Stand up to negative talk towards you, get it out of your mind and your life.

Focus on your growth, on your gains, on what you want.

You will never move if you don't protect yourself, your mind from things that pull you down, that you find takes over your mind, your thoughts.

You get to be in control....if you choose it. Test yourself. Test yourself by doing what you think is right for you, watch what others do, test it for yourself. If it works for you, if you see and feel a difference, then keep doing it. If not, stop, adjust and keep going. If you're telling yourself to get off social media - then test it, see how it works for you, see how much you actually get done, learn to manage yourself and when you do, you will stop pointing the finger at others, blaming others, judging others, because you will be so focused on yourself and growing yourself, spending time with your family and doing all that is right for you. Just because you're not on social media, doesn't mean you don't care, Those who are important to you, you will see, you will see in person, you will make arrangements to catch up. What ever you want to see change or growth in, think about what actions you could do, read books, learn from those doing it, what are they doing, what feels right for you, test it for yourself, If you want a better outcome this year, focus on you. Detach yourself from the things that don't work for you. Detach yourself from others opinions of you, of what you're doing, of how you do things, The way I'm learning to detach myself from these things, is to not think about me as a person, ok that sounds weird actually, it's something I find hard to explain in words, its like I can step out of being a person, a character for a moment, I'm just a walking thing, I see everyone else as the same, just walking things and any words, any looks, any opinions that come at me just get bounced off like I'm karate chopping them all.

It's an energetic feeling...allowing yourself to see things, notice things, but not be apart of those things, or have those things, people, be apart of you and your world. Even if it's just for a moment.

Allow yourself to be the bouncer of your own party....your life party.

Allowing all ideas, opinions of others that don't work for you to just bounce right off you.

It takes practice.

For those things that you react to, could be your truth, something you'd like to change within yourself, something you wish to have for yourself.

Knowing they're not true for you, allows you to practice bouncing them right off you.

If you want to do something, do it... for you.

If you want to be something, be it... for you.

If you want to have something, have it... for you.

You will also see, in time, working on you, for you, will actually be so much bigger than you, you will see how it was beneficial for others too.