A LETTER TO WOMEN

Dear Women, We say we support women, but do we deeply support women? There is so much that pains me as a woman myself. Who I've been, who I continue to be, who I am, all I observe of others, the conversations had, that over the years has brought so much awareness to my world. So many of the conversations I've been having with women lately has stirred this post and there's never going to be an ideal time to write about it. We say we support women, but do we deeply support women as they deserve to be? -Women support women so long as they don't surpass their own comfort limits & beliefs. -Women accept certain behaviour from their closest yet the same behaviour from another whom she isn't close to is criticised. -Women judge another women by the clothes she wears, the weight she is, the volume of her voice, the amount & style of confidence she carries. -Women compete with other women in unspoken ways that only feeds the ego & stems from insecurity. -Women determine their own worth on how she feels standing next to another women. -Women listen to the words they're told about another rather than taking the time to know them personally themselves. -Women decide who another women is the moment she walks into a room. -Women have a timeline for when other women have to heal by. -Women don't let another women move from who she was to who she desires to be with ease. -Women don't deeply celebrate other women for their talent, skills, accomplishments. -Women question another women on their relationship status & length of, the number of children had & by how many. -Women find it hard to hold space for another woman's emotions even though she too holds similar emotions herself. -Women are challenged to understand or forgive another women who may have done wrong by her. -Women may do wrong to another women yet are unwilling to see things if the tables where turned. We say we support women, but do we deeply support women as they deserve to be? It's a question I'd love you to ask yourself. It's the questions I've been asking myself in so many ways, in different situations throughout my life...in the past & until this very day. We can praise ourselves on supporting other women, and for many of us we do, absolutely we do, but to what level. There is so much that is so ingrained in us as women over generations, that we have made acceptable & normal, yet there is so much underlying pieces that still are felt, thought, spoken, actioned that show we do not deeply support women to be their most desired selves. Yet we all crave to be able to step forward into our true nature. This is the harsh reality of women and it not only saddens me, it saddens all women when they're not truly supported, accepted, acknowledged for who they are. It's seen in friendships, relationships between mothers & daughters, in communities, between sisters, towards strangers. Women are fighters, but sometimes in the wrong way, for the wrong reasons. If we continue living in this way, we end up hurting ourselves as well as others. We have to stop this tag-of-war between the part that wants so much to step forward into all of who we are & the part that wants to hold back and sit in safety just to fit in. We can only truly value & accept another for all that they are, when we truly value & accept ourselves for all who we are & take care of the pieces of us that need healing. As always it starts with us in how we choose to show up & be so unapologetic in our true nature. I encourage us all to bring awareness to our thoughts, our words, our actions towards other women & see where it's coming from, so we can bridge the gap. The more we support other women, the more connection, the more growth, the more the world will benefit. Love always Char x