GIVE YOURSELF SPACE TO REALLY GET TO KNOW YOU!

At different times in your life, you focus on different areas of your life. Sometimes you will put your energy into your career, Sometimes your relationships. It can change from day to day, From month to month, Sometimes year by year. Sometimes you feel like you've got the balance right, Other times you really don't.

It's been just over 3 years since I decided to be on my own and leave my marriage. Not an easy decisions to make. I was scared to be on my own again. Wondering if I had the energy to parent on my own, run my business, all at the same time as dealing with my own emotions that separating brought to the table.

From the age of 17 through to 37, I had always been in a relationship. I had never really been alone, for long. I didn't want to be alone, I enjoy being in a relationship. When I look back at it all now, I would have been filling a space I didn't feel I could do on my own. I relied on my partners to complete me. So when I separated from my marriage, I decided to be alone.

Being alone, has been the most challenging space I've ever been in, yet I've seen, felt and embraced the most growth within myself I have ever experienced. There were many times, I wanted so much to fill that space with another full time relationship. Yet, when I really asked myself what I wanted, I knew that wasn't the right thing for me, As I had a few things I needed to let go of before I could possibly go there again. Sometimes I had to also be reminded of this by others.

Allowing yourself to be alone brings so much up for you. There are no distractions, only you & your thoughts. You are faced with some/many truths about yourself, life, others. At times, many times, I didn't feel I had much strength as I faced my truth. Yet now I see and feel the strength I have now gained over this time. In the times when life comes at you, I now allow myself to experience it and work through it faster than ever before. I've learnt to have my own back and work through all kinds of pain & challenges. I've learnt to let go, ease up and have more fun too. I've allowed myself to step into my feminine energy more when it felt right to do so.

Right now in this season of my life, I'm putting more focus, attention into what relationships mean for me. What I want in a relationship, what I believe a healthy relationship looks like. I'm finally at a stage where I know I'm ready to step into that space again when the energy aligns. I've created space in my life to now be able to give energy and time to one.

I know of three couples who have taken a holiday you could say from their relationship, putting what they had on the line, not knowing where it would go, but allowing themselves the space to grow as individuals. This I think is so powerful, brings so much strength in ones self and as a unit.

Even if you are in a relationship, allowing yourself space to be alone at times, going your separate ways every so often, I believe would do wonders for yourself and as a couple. Knowing yourself in a deeper way can only add more depth to a relationship.

Knowing what you want, being clear on what you want, doesn't mean there won't be challenges along the way. Yet the clearer you are on who you are as an individual, the clearer you can communicate within your relationships. It's hard to share with someone what you want if you yourself don't know who you are and what tickles your fancy 

Get to know yourself, learn all about you, keep growing as an individual and the right person will meet you half way.