HE DIDN'T CHOOSE ME!

Ha, you should know me by now...well a little anyway, haha there are many things I actually don't share with you, however when something comes through me, and it's strong, not just a slight tickle, but more like a good shove, that's my cue to share. And with many private messages I receive on this topic, I know there are people who need to hear this right now. So back to it.... He didn't choose me. There was this guy, he was all sorts of deliciousness haha. He had a way and I was taken by it. There was time spent together, conversations had and I enjoyed his company. When I saw him, I'd take a deep breath as a smile would grace my face. He made me nervous, in a good way... Yet something came to my attention and it didn't feel right or feel good. Words, actions were out of alignment which threw me to the side. It was calling me to pay attention, For a time I ignored it, until I couldn't any longer. He didn't choose me. Hanging around, continuing on with what was, sure could have happened, But the feelings, were something I wasn't willing to live with. And guess what, this isn't about what he didn't do, even though, they are the words you read. The words 'He didn't choose me' translates into 'I wasn't choosing me' It's not about being chosen by someone else, When we wish to be chosen, we wish for them to fill a space for us that we aren't filling for ourselves. Or when things don't line up, their words along with their actions are out of sync, That's our chance to choose ourselves in those moments. To say, this isn't ok, To say, I'm no longer available for this. When two people meet, it's your natural energy that pulls you together, It's the knowing they're there, without even seeing them, you can just feel their presence, your energy knows theirs, And so you draw closer together, Sure there will be some challenges, yet alignment is still very much apart of it all and you're both willing to pull the other back towards you to work through things. Yet when you choose yourself when things don't feel right. When you speak up to that and address what's going on instead of ignoring the situation, And they walk the other way with no looking back. That is when you did right, by choosing yourself. It doesn't matter if you're in the dating scene or in a relationship. If things are out of alignment, if words & actions don't align, Speak up to how you feel, Those who are for you will stay, Those who aren't will always leave. Don't be afraid of any of it. You will always be ok. Don't sit in 'It will do' or 'It's better than nothing' You get to be all of who you are, even within a relationship, every single person does. When you put up with 'It will do' and ignore what's not ok with you...in the end it will strip you for all you have. In every moment...Choose you and the right one will never make you question yourself or them.