HOW MANY PEOPLE ARE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

How many people are you letting into your relationships? The relationship you have with others... The individual relationships you have with Your Mum, Your Dad, Your children, Your partner, Your siblings, Your friends. We've made it so common (especially us as women) to bring others into our relationships, When things go wrong, we reach out to others outside of that relationship to speak of them, We think nothing much of it, we see it as trying to work things out with a friend we trust, to make sense of things in our own minds by voicing it. And look, sure it's important to speak with someone you trust, when you really need to, But most of the time we need to ask ourselves how necessary is it...Most of what is being spoken about is just a lot of talk about the things we could actually work out on our own or with whom we are in the relationship with. When we bring others in, we are looking for validation, to make ourselves feel better and in some way make the other seem wrong and us right. This is something I've become so aware of and have looked at where I myself have done this and in some places still do to a point. I'm choosing this NOT to be a part of my world anymore and so I'm tighting things up. The relationship you choose to have with anyone, is important for it to stay with the two of you. Enjoy the good times you share. And when things arise, when things aren't going the way you wish for them to go, It's important to address that person, the one you're having the relationship with. This in itself brings open conversation, both your needs been meant, working through things together, Which in turns creates a stronger relationship between the two of you. It was only a few months back that I had a situation with a good friend. A relationship that is important to me. I had to really look at where I had to take full responsibilities for my own actions. As I sat with the uncomfortable feelings from things not feeling right for a couple of days, I then reached out to her and had a conversation about it. We can feel it's easier to ignore, hope they don't notice, will forget, sweep things under the rug, let it just slide, but in my eyes that only weakens the relationship. After being able to talk about it together, work through it, we were then able to carry on with our friendship with more respect for one another. So who are you letting into your relationship?