I'M HUMAN JUST LIKE YOU!

I'M ONLY HUMAN... There's this misconception that those who write or speak about personal development, personal growth that they (we) have our shit together, or like for others to believe that we do. Guess what...we don't...and probably never will - we are human after all. It's just not the case for many and especially myself. I understand it's hard to truly know, as there's a lot out there who paint a pretty good picture of a perfect, easy life, where in actual fact they probably have a lot going on behind the scenes that's just not visible. A lot of harm can be done in the moments we try to hide our so called weaknesses, vulnerability and make our life seem good all the time. In the last couple of months I've had a few comments said to me. Not to attack me as such, just passing comments, or in some way joking or questionable way, which has made me want to write this. You may know by now that I like to write. I write and share what comes to me. It's never planned, it's just what pops into my mind and I start writing. Sometimes it's an experience, Sometimes it's just a thought that grabs me for some reason or another and I feel the big pull to write about it, Other times it's something I know I need to hear for myself, and if I need it, usually someone else needs to hear it too - that's just how it works for me. My rule is that there must be a lesson, a learning in everything I write. And because of what I write, people expect or believe me to live a certain way or by a certain manner. Like the day when I felt a little over dressed for an occasion and put my thought out about changing my top & shoes, my words from my writing where spoken back to me in a joking way...but also to make a point I believe. Or when I found myself in an interesting experience, a person was surprised that I didn't pick up on it straight away simply because of all that I write about. Thing is I'm human. I too go through the motions. I too question myself, doubt myself, second guess myself. I too am still learning. I don't get it right all the time and I hope I never do, because if I never made mistakes it would mean I've stopped learning and who want's that. I love learning and I love being curious about myself, about life and others. Those of us who are into personal growth (which many of us are now which is awesome) do so because we make it a part of our life - I do, it's my every day. I love to stretch myself, I love seeing what else is possible for me, I love to strengthening my mind in different ways, I love to challenge myself. But for me it's also about being fully human. To feel it all, To stuff up and when I do I'm the first one to admit it. No one, and I mean, No one has their shit together. So it's really important for your own self care, your own mental health to know this, to not expect someone to be or live a certain way, because when you place them in that space, in that box, there will come a moment that they disappoint you, that they don't live up to your expectations...that moment you realise they are human too - like you, and me and everyone else. Being human means experiencing all sides of life, all sides of emotions, experiencing different ways and things in life. And the more you learn about self, the more you want to experience, which in turn means the more lessons there are to be had. To sit still in life, to not try or experience different things just isn't for me, so expect mess, mistakes, madness, magic & miracles haha because any other way just ain't me xx Look at people and know that what you see is just one part of them, There is so much more to them than what you do see...so much more...and it's usually the best parts that we seem to miss out on seeing unfortunately. Those parts are usually only seen by those close to them. The best parts are their messy, quirky, silly, crazy sides that too many seem to hide away - even me...but I'm working on it. Join me over on Instagram for all sorts of bits & pieces https://www.instagram.com/charmainemarinkovich/