Loneliness is a disconnect from self...

On Friday night I was driving home, it was late and I’d just finished at the studio, plus it was my 5 night stint without the kids. I could feel the loneliness creeping up on me. When I got home it was in full force.

Now don’t worry this isn’t a feel sorry for me, woe is me post, As I always like to make sure there is a lesson in anything I share.

In the past, I would have done all I could to dodge this feeling, Go catch up with friends, reach for food, or a drink, whatever, Just so I didn’t have to feel it - feel the pain of it. Instead I sat with it. Which meant I actually sat in a chair, Felt the pain of what loneliness is, and didn’t resist it. Then I grabbed a book that I’ve been enjoying lately, And not too long after…the loneliness was gone.

Too often, we do whatever we can to cover up or run from pain or emotions that we’re feeling, Instead of simply just feeling into it, sitting with it, acknowledging it. When we try and dodge the pain of these feelings and reach for the chocolate, Or anything else that gives us that feeling of satisfaction, It usually gives us a short time fix and we really don’t feel any better for it,
All we’re doing is prolonging moving forward in strengthening ourselves.

You may be feeling lonely (even if there are people around you), You may be feeling frustrated, angry, sad, bored Do yourself a favour and sit with yourself, I promise it won’t last too long, And then get into motion to shift the emotion by doing something simple that makes you feel good. Run yourself a bath, pamper yourself a bit, read a good book, watch a good movie, Prepare yourself a good meal. Reward yourself with goodness that makes you feel good.

This my friends is what ya call self-love, Give yourself a bit of loving, Don’t look outside of you to make you feel better, You have everything you need right there with you already - YOU!