SPEAKING UP

Speaking up to what is truly right for you is so important in all your relationships. Speaking up with your truth doesn't make you mean, a bitch or like you don't care. Showing up in your truth is the best form of caring. They know what to expect and where you stand with things. Here are a few quick conversations I've had with friends lately. All that was required was a quick answer nothing more. All spoken with love and calmness because no other emotion or reaction is required when speaking to what is right for you. Friend: Can you host a product party for me Me: I'm sorry, but they're just not my thing Weeks later I shared some marketing tips with her to help, not because I felt guilty, but because I generally wanted to help my friend but in a way that felt right for me also. She then attracted the right people. Friend: "Shall we come over to your place for dinner on Friday night" Me: Yes, Sounds like a good plan. It had been 6 weeks since seeing my good friend and I couldn't wait for our catch up. Plus I love it when people want to come to my place and feel comfortable to invite themselves. Friend: "You should stay for the next class" Me: I'd love to, but no, I've got other things planned. So much of me wanted to stay, so much, but I had made some promises to myself and it was important for me to follow through with those promises. Friend: "Can I borrow your house for a dance lesson" Me: Yes sure, what time? Conversation had with clear timings put in place and honoured. My kids weren't here and the space was free. Friend: Can you take someone home for me as I'd like to go elsewhere now. Me: Sorry, not tonight I wasn't feeling the best in myself and I didn't have the energy to chat with someone I didn't know. I know many people find it hard to say 'Yes' or 'No' to what they want in fear of the other persons reaction. But how they choose to react is not your responsibility, only theirs. Being able to remove yourself from their emotions and reactions takes practice, but once you start it will set your relationships up better for the long game. If you don't you will continued to feel drained, resentful & frustrated, leaving a bad taint to your relationships. Relationships are a two way street, so it goes both ways, speak your truth to your relationships and respect others when they too speak their truth. If you struggle with speaking your truth Reach out to me about working together 1:1 for 8 weeks.