WHEN THE OVERWHELM GETS REAL.

The overwhelm is real, it's intense at times hey...you really feel it. I know you're thinking of all the things you wish for, All the ways in which you wish your life to look like and feel like, But it all seems way too much right? Yeah I get it, totally, I was the overwhelm Queen. The kids need you, Your partner needs you, You've got work, The house is an endless pit to keep on top off, Your friends are messaging to catch up, And you wish for things to do for you, just for you, so you can say you've done something in life, But well, there's no time, after everything else. No time and zero energy anyway. You dream of the life you want, but with all this you think 'What's the point'...there's no way. Well from the Ex-overwhelm queen, to you...let me tell you there is a way. But it takes some work, it take patience, it takes you making some choices & adjustments for yourself. To the carer, the one who wishes to please everyone, Who wants to make sure everyone around them is looked after & doing all they need to get done, Who wants to look like you can do it all, Who worries about everyone else and takes on others problems as their own. Detach yourself! In other words, take your hands out of other peoples lives, Let them be responsible for them, and you for yourself. You can still love and care for others, without doing everything for them. You can pass responsibility onto others and trust they will do a good job too. You can trust they know what they need and how to do it, and if not, then they get to learn and what a skill. Your overwhelms comes from trying to do it all and not trusting that others can do it. They may not do it your way and that's ok, let them do it their way, let them learn, let them grow, let them fail. And look at where and how you can simplify things in your life...make what seems like a big job, lighter, So that you can gain more time....for you. I used to be the messiest person ever...until I tidied up my shit haha most of it anyway...theres always some mess somewhere, let's keep it real now. And to do that...I started small...in the kitchen. As I cooked, each time I finished with a utensil, a pot etc I rinse & place in the dish washer instead of on the bench. Come the end of dinner, there's only the dinner dishes to do. Not a big deal for many I would say, but for me, it was...and made a huge difference in my time and my energy. If you want to see changes, in any area...YOU have to be the one that starts with change, in yourself. You can not change another. Even if you feel like another has caused you pain in someway, you are the only one who is responsible for how you react and what you choose to do going forward. Everyday life doesn't need to be so overwhelming, you just have to look at what's yours and what's not. Tasks, emotions, situations. Detach yourself! 1:1 sessions available - Private message me for details.