YOU ARE BEING ASKED TO STEP UP! BOTH WOMEN + MEN!

You are being asked to step up! Both women & men. For themselves, for each other, for their children & their families. We were not made to live alone, we were not made to raise children on our own, we are meant to live in community, raising our children in a village, yet so much separation has happened over and over again that it has become the norm to see families separating. Physically walking away from each other because neither are willing to meet their own and anothers needs or emotionally disconnecting and essentionally living as flatmates, not as a family. Women are needing men to step up and care for, nuture their woman so that she is then free to care for their children, multiple children at a time, giving the love, care and nuturing children require to grow & thrive, all because she too is being cared for and another has her best interests at heart. When a woman is cared for, she has the capacity to hold alot, she is the life force, not only bringing life into this world but into everything she does and she will give back 10 fold...to her children and to her partner. Yet the world continues to divide because families are not growing together for a number of reasons. Men are not stepping fully into the part that's required of them, as well as keeping silent on their own needs & desires so they can keep healthy, thrive & lead their families. Women are struggling to hold it together simply because she doesn't have the space to care for herself & isn't being cared for, all while giving so much of herself away to everyone else. She isn't setting a standard for herself, not learning herself enough to be able to ask for what she really needs. Silence begins to divide & resentment grows. A woman wants for affection, a hug, a kiss, to be given the space to take a breath, to rest when her body is calling for it, to be looked at with love throughout all the changes her body experiences. To be heard, accepted & not judged for all the emotions that naturally run through her, to be held and to feel safe. To feel free to express. She requires a man to show his leadership and to feel his protection for her and her babies. A man wants for respect, support, care & appreciation for all that he does & brings to the table. To be asked for his imput and that his opinion matters. To have space to breath & still play in life. When the presense of a man is absent in these ways, a woman starts to step into his role more, which hardens her. She may begin to feed these needs through other means (shopping, eating & more etc) At the same time, she continues stepping towards her man, asking for her needs to be met, so she can soften again & have the time & space to care for her children & her partner in the way she was made to care deeply for them. She then often asked for her needs to be met in a hard way that's not inviting & can distances him further. A woman is made to receive in these ways from her man, yet when all she does is gives & receives very little nuturing in return herself, she runs low on what she can pass on to her children and one day she becomes so tired she stops asking, she stops hoping, she has nothing left in her to give anymore, she has run out of juice and so she pulls back and asks for nothing. Things starts to die, yet all she wanted was to be the best mother and partner she could be, but this can only be achieved when they each choose to meet themselves & each other. When this happens, not only does both the man & woman miss out on receiving, but it's the children who miss out the most. As a world, both men & women have work to do for themselves as individuals, so that they can give themselves, their children, their families the best opportunities that they deserve. The majority haven't been taught any of this, they have only learnt by what they have experienced & seen, which has shaped their beliefs. Very few are guided on conversations to have pre children and while growing a family. Very few have been taught how to respect themselvs, so they can then respect another. How to communicate effectively with love towards another. What healthy support looks like. Ladies, you are being asked to step up...within yourself. You are being asked to value yourselves more. To have more respect for yourself & your body...who gets access to reach your heart. To hold a standard for yourself in all areas and be a stand for that level. To ask for your needs & desires to be met with love. To use your decernment and communicate when things are not feeling right with love. You are being asked to love & give to yourself just as you love & give to your partner & children. You are being asked to 'SAY' where YOU are at & what YOU want and stop 'ASKING' where things are at & waiting to be met or choosen. You are being asked to pull back and allow yourself to be led by another, loosen the reins a little, you don't have to hold it all. You are being asked to play more, find joy in things more, have more fun with life. Men, you are also being asked to step up. You are being asked to step into your leadership for yourself & your family. To communicate your needs & desires so you can thrive as the leader that you are. To hold a healthy standard for yourself and be a stand for that level also. To step into your valunerbility and know it's safe there. You're being asked to bring your nuturing side to the table, it's a very powerful part of you. To take the lead in a way that's supportive, caring yet with certainty. When we take the time to care for & learn ourselves as individuals, When we see we are responsible for ourselves & the parts we play in life, When we become the person we are asking others to become for us, Then we can meet another with the same standards, same values as us, And then together, we can grow stronger families and change the way for our children. It's never to late to change the direction of your ways and what you want to see. It starts with each of us, within ourselves, to become the person we are asking others to be. Be a stand for love, respect, kindness for others so we can stop the separation & bring back community. * So much is unfolding...more shared in the coming months.