Be careful of what you dream of...

There’s dreaming and then there’s dreaming….

I’m a dreamer, a big dreamer at that. Always have been…always will be. I love dreaming of what my life could look like, will look like, Dreaming of all the goals I want to conquer in my lifetime.

Yet last night I found myself drifting off to fantasy land, Dreaming of a relationship that I don’t have, that I won’t have. Dreaming up different scenarios on how it looked, what it felt like, what it would be like…if only. During that time in dreamland it made me feel bloody good inside - like it was real life. Everything was fun, comforting, romantic, loving…. haha oh man….

Until that moment I caught myself and snapped out of that dream relationship. It was in that moment that it suddenly felt shit & loneliness creeped in. It was also in that moment that I realised that I was in self sabotage thinking mode, A place that does me no good, a place that stops me in that moment of moving forward. It was in the next moments that followed that I had to come back to myself, comfort myself and tune into me again, To re-focus on what was important for me right here, right now and not what will never be.

It’s so easy to dream up moments in our minds that will never be, trying to make ourselves feel good, feel enough, feel wanted. When really we just need to feel it from ourselves first. It’s not up to anyone else to make us feel good, feel enough, feel complete. It’s up to us to feel complete and enough within ourselves and if one day there is another, then that person will be one to compliment our lives, but never complete it.

Never stop dreaming of what you want in your life. The things you want to achieve for yourself, Growing and becoming a person you have always looked up to. You have everything within you to achieve it all if you really truly want it and you take the action. Just don’t seek acceptance, validation, completeness from others, you will only be left living a life that isn’t truly yours.

Focus on you first. Love you first. Like you first. Appreciate & Accept you first. Give to yourself first. When you do, you will have so much more to give to those you love and will receive what you truly deserve from others in return. How you treat yourself, shows others how to treat you.

‘Own YOUR space’