Life Can Look However You Want It To Look...

Life can look however you want it to look for you.

Wise words I received from a friend this week and interestingly enough, something that I have noticed lately when I reflect on my own life.

Growing up, we have an idea of what life is supposed to look like....what we'd like it to look like, a check-list you could say. Beliefs and ideas passed down from family, Ideas from what society may expect of us, or what we expect our life to look like to society.

But you know what...bugger that.

I'm one who has often done things a little bit backwards or different, you could say. I haven't always follow the so called "normal" way of doing things...a rule breaker at heart maybe, I don't know...But I've learnt and I'm still learning to know, there is no right or wrong way of doing something, it's just about finding a way that works for you and standing strong in your decisions.

Here are a few things that spring to mind for me in my life and where I held strong in my choices.

Opting for home births, even when others voiced their concerns about the risk and all that could go wrong, I stuck to the belief in myself either way and held full trust in my body.

Suggesting to my daughter to not go and study until she had a really good idea of what she wanted to study, even if that meant others thinking we were silly for our choice, it was about staying strong in our decision and knowing what was right for her.

Following my heart to share my thoughts, my writing, with you instead of just my photography, something I have only ever been known for...and continuing to do so even after having received throwback from others in the industry, following through with what feels right for me is more important.

And the same can go for any area of your life. Work, business doesn't have to be done like it's always been done, you get to set the rules with what ever works and flows for you.

Relationships can look however you want them to look...long distance, short distance, one night here, one night there, full time, part time...what ever works for you...what ever tickles ya fancy 

;) haha you get to decide together.

Bringing up your kids....man there are so many ways, so again, what works for you and your kids is best. I, myself try not to parent my kids the same, because they are all so different, what works for one, doesn't work for the other...it's about tuning into them individually, and yeap I fall down and stuff up, but I keep trying with what feels right for me.

Maybe you are perceived one way in your career and then another way in your personal life...sweet, there's nothing wrong with that. As a friend and I spoke just the other day...there are so many facets to us that make us who we are and every part of that is just right for each of us.

You get to paint the picture of your life in which ever way you choose. You get to set the rules for yourself, Some people will be good with that, Some will be a bit wobbly with it but will come along for the ride with you, others may not...but again, it's ok.

Don't be afraid to step out side of your box, to see what more is available to you, for you. Speak your ideas to others, set those ideas free, You may surprise yourself and you may just surprise others too. Sometimes when you set yourself free from that box of yours, You set others free too, And some beautiful things could blossom from it all, You won't know if you keep doing it the way you think it should be done, how about looking a what other ways it could go.

Throw away the check-list of life and make up your own. Seems a bit more exciting and fun don't ya think.

And while we are on the topic.... A few BIG changes are coming this way, so stay tuned over the next coming weeks.