THE ART OF SELF JOURNAL

Nothing in this world is ever truly guaranteed, which I'm sure many of you have figured that out already. And because it's not, it doesn't mean you shouldn't give something a go, it doesn't mean you can't try. Not starting something, Not going after something, Giving up too early, Not risking things simply because the outcome you want, isn't guaranteed, is not a good enough reason, it's just an excuse. The thing is, there would be no fun, no satisfaction, no growth if we all

I've been secretly having a relationship with someone for 3 years. It's been a mixture of ups and downs. I've felt all the feels with this person. At the start it was fun and exciting ha the honeymoon period ya could say, Then it became frustrating and lonely. I didn't know who I was many times, I lost myself many times, I overplayed things many times, I downplayed things many times, I wanted so much to quit this relationship as at times it became too hard. Sometimes I just

Years ago when it was just my daughter Summa and I, we were eating dinner at our tiny, round dining room table one night, it had been falling to bits little by little and we were down to two chairs and a very wobbly table. I decided then it was time for a new one, however I didn't have the funds to buy one straight out, so I paid it off...it took me 3 years. Even though it was just the two of us, I brought a big one, one that was sturdy, one that would last forever and one th

It can be so easy to complain about what you don't have, what is happening in the world, how much things cost, who's doing what or not doing, why things are a certain way, but all your complaining about things in life are simply just killing the possibilities within you. Every time you complain it's striping you, it's depleting you, you're pushing away all that is available for you. Think about it, the last time you complained about something, for a moment it felt good to ge

Many of us put so much focus and time into preparing our home, making it look good, cleaning it, decluttering it, organising it, rearranging it. It's what many do to feel better about ourselves, about our world...for a moment. There is always something to do in our home, we FEEL there is always something to do in our home, we make sure there is ALWAYS something to do in your home. And although living in an environment that is clear and feels good is great and all, what about

Where in your life are you relying on others to help you, fix you, support you, fill a space for you that you feel you can't do on your own. Where does that need from others come from. Where in your lifetime have you felt that same feeling, that same need. Did you feel that same pain, that same feeling, that same need from someone in your childhood, in your teenage years, in your twenties and it keeps coming up from others in your life now. Did you miss out on something in yo

Concentrating on growth, your own growth, can feel so challenging, especially with social media, seeing everyone else growing, concentrating on their goals, smashing their goals and life and you feeling like you're not. So what can you do about it all....well you could get off social media for a start and focus and work on you and your goals if ya want to. Stop letting all the other BS around you come into your mind. Stop comparing yourself, your life with everyone else....ta

This New Years I had planned to go away with my sister, her partner and a few of their friends to Napier, yet with such a busy, interesting end to last year, I felt the want to stay home, to not go away on a holiday. Going away brings a list of things to do, and I just didn't want anymore things to do. With 10 days with out the kids, I knew I needed this time to re-charge, To give myself space to breath again, To give myself space to re-focus. I live at the Mount, a hop skip

Pulling from a conversation I had last night in the lead up to see the new year in, as well as hanging at the beach today and observing a girl learning to surf, my message to you is just bloody start. I decided at 14 years old that I wanted to be a photographer. I took my first step towards that at around 18 yrs old, but didn't get really serious about my dreams, until I was 21. That's nearly 7 years of dreaming and not really doing. My goals grew as I grew. Owning a studio o